Most children know how to push their parents' buttons to get what they want. Throwing extreme temper tantrums is their way of taking control and do they want. Let's look at why they throw such extreme tantrums. To really understand why they throw such a fit, you need to put yourself in their place.
A toddler has an intense desire to do things their way; however their mental and motor skills have developed more quickly than their ability to communicate because they don't yet have the verbal skills required to express their frustration. So to a toddler, throwing a tantrum will get them what they want.
There are two tantrums flavors. One is manipulative tantrums and the other is the frustration tantrums. Knowing these facts as parents, you cannot afford to be volatile in anyway because it will be a screaming match with no winners.
What do you do when those extreme tantrums arise? The first thing is to stay calm even if your child is kicking and screaming at the top of their lung. Next you want to go down to their level and have eye contact and speak with authority let your child know that you will not listen to anything they have to say as long as they keep behaving that way and that behavior is not acceptable, then walk away.
Your child will test you and scream and kick even more but you need to stand your ground and sit him down no matter how many times they repeat this behavior. After a while your child will get that mommy means business and won't back down on her words.
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